Fleeting Friendships

 Does anyone recall when they were a young adult and you had friends, sometimes best friends? Maybe from school or your neighborhood. You all made the promise to be friends forever- be there for one another during the fun but also tough times... but overtime you all became amble- fell into your own individual selves. It happens.

As a kid (and even now as an older adult) I found it difficult to have friends. I was always the person bouncing between the different groups such as the emo's to the stoners to the chavs but I never settled into one group. However on my first day of high school I met one friend, who we will go by N for now.

We met on the first day of high school and over the years became the best of friends. She was the one who introduced me to Secondlife. I got a call one day saying she had seen an article in a magazine about SL and had been playing it non stop for a few days! Well as someone who suffers from FOMO- I just had to sign up. 15 years later and I'm still a highly active player.  

So not only in RL were we best friends but in Secondlife too- and we bounced between groups of people who tried to call us the same but they too were there one day and gone the next and at las it was back to us two. Albeit N and I are no longer friends- my mental health wasn't the greatest and I was not understanding of her sentiments, however we had a wonderful friendship of 20 years together which I'll always cherish.

However friendships are different on SL- they almost have that childlike companionship of being best friends and there forever but it always ends. Friendships are so fleeting, they burn bright like a meteor but once it passes that light is gone and you move on to the next, just like school

I think I have one friend who has been consistent. Albeit there has been times we drift but we always come together again.

But that's one in a hundred that happens. I've been on Secondlife for nearly 15 years and experienced those meteors on more hands than I can count.

I'll cherish the moments I had with all of those people but I just wonder why they are like that on here- why do friendships simply not last that long on here?

All you can ask for is that those fleeting friendships build happy memories and add to your character/being.

Love of My life & Best friend Ritsu, Jasper, Best Friend Ferox & Best Friend Chloe

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Targeted Abuse In Secondlife

Image
 We all sit on Secondlife for one reason or another- whether it's that you have a disability and this is your outlet to do what you can't IRL- or need a break from the stress around you and build tanks because it's something that's way cheaper to do in SL than RL.  There are so many reasons for us to be here. My reason? I work from home and find that, admittedly, yes I am someone who is chronically online and I use SL as an artistic outlet and a way to connect with people online. As someone who has Autism, I find it rather difficult to make friends and maintain them IRL- so it's just easier this way and better for my mental health.  However there are people who like to use SL "wrong" , lets say, those who use it to troll or abuse others. A hot topic amongst people is "targeted abuse" and how easy it is for people to do.  I've found myself recently someone who has been on the targeted end of abuse from some stranger who, for some reason, allo...
Read more

Altered Galleries

Image
 I feel like being threatened with a potential ban for voicing my dismay towards being kicked from a project has put a foul taste in my mouth.  I was asked to join a project to start a gallery which I was excited by- as a non-professional photographer in secondlife, being asked and praised for what what I did have brought a lot of excitement.  I worked the first gallery with no issues however I had to take a short break because I found my neighbour/friend dead IRL. I was told I could take a break, and for one week I did to gather my thoughts and process what I had witnessed.  But I was praised for the work I did do- I was told to great a notecard with my wages and it is dated to the day it was made. December was the second month of payment which I was told I would get 7.5K because I was doing a good job.  You can see it dated during the time we were in contact. I was told to make this and keep note- I didn't ask for a raise but instead was given it. I was organi...
Read more
Image
I started my blog only to take a break from it. Why? Well around 6 months ago I met my beautiful other half Ritsu in Secondlife in a sim called Femboys. He was always stood there and throughout the year I'd always compliment his avatars.  However there was never a chance before because either me or him were in a relationship one time... but that window opened and I finally had the guts to talk to him and ask if he'd Roleplay with me sometimes. Not sexual roleplay but story driven and he agreed. 6 months later and he is visiting me for the first time and I cannot wait for the love of my life to finally come to me.  Our connection in SL is so powerful, so loving and caring. I hope it translate to RL too because I want to spend the rest of my life with this man. Anyway- I'm leaving and will blog sporadically!  Picture of my beautiful Husbands character Leto Lots of Love, Jasper Abe
Read more